Why I am deleting my personal Facebook account.
Today is 90 official days without Facebook and here is what happened:
I became more present:
At first, I deleted it thinking it would reduce social pressure to be ever present, but then I realized it made me want to be more present. I was more apt to hangout with people, I had more patience getting to know them better, and I wasn’t worried about missing things.
I found that Facebook was not the root of the problem:
Yes, you read that correctly, Facebook is not the root of the problem. I found that it was a combination of boredom and not wanting to confront different issues in my life. I had to figure out how to get rid of the boredom, but also process my feelings. When I got rid of Facebook, all I wanted to do was watch YouTube when I didn’t know what to do or when I didn’t want to feel, but I quickly realized what I was doing. Since that discovery, I started plugging my phone outside my bedroom at night. I found that I spent less time on my phone and actually found time to rest, journal to God, and read my Bible and other good books. Getting rid of Facebook allowed me to see the reality as to how I was living. By getting rid of my personal Facebook completely, it will be one less road block to growing.
I learned about friendship:
When on Facebook I was able to see people on there and what they were doing, but we never talked much. Ever since I have been off Facebook, I have sent/received messages to/from different friends and I have been able to have a real conversation with them. I no longer knew about them, I knew them because they shared things personally with me. I had given Facebook the opportunity to rob my social life, to trick me into thinking I was in contact with them, when in reality, I wasn’t. I don’t want to give Facebook that opportunity again. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
One less thing to worry about:
About a month into my break from Facebook, I was getting text messages about notifications. I can only imagine how many notifications I have . (I haven’t logged in at the time of writing this blog.) It’s been a relief not to have those Facebook notifications to check, and I look forward to not receiving a notification email or text again.
I want to redirect my focus:
When I was on Facebook, there was a lot of social pressure. I felt the need to share what I was doing, to update people on my mission trips, to assure everyone I was well, and that I was, indeed, in ministry. I don’t want my focus to be on trying to impress anyone, when the only person I don’t even have to impress, but rather serve, is God. My focus now, is to update people by newsletter, because Paul and Timothy did so, but not to prove myself, but rather to allow people to be part of the ministry that God has so graciously given me. Because in the end, its not about me, its about Jesus.
Overall what I learned was not that Facebook is a horrible thing from the depths of Sheol (biblical hell), but rather, that I, Annie Shannon, do better without having a personal account. Does that mean I am leaving Facebook permanently? For the time being, yes, but I have arranged to make a public Facebook page where any Facebook user is welcome to follow my adventures and posts. I just will not have a personal account where I can get lost in the scrolling and that is perfectly fine with me.
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